tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3624094217975192456.post8509029474211800750..comments2023-05-23T07:26:54.524-07:00Comments on Yes, She is My Husband: Status QuoMarnihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17627512510408880545noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3624094217975192456.post-55301539356770290522011-12-22T10:05:16.541-08:002011-12-22T10:05:16.541-08:00@Cynthia Jane - Thanks very much, and we wish you ...@Cynthia Jane - Thanks very much, and we wish you a happy holiday season, too! :-)<br /><br />Neither of us were surprised at Dick's decision... yes, that's his name... to be unsupportive. I'm thinking of setting up one of those IndieGoGo accounts to try to raise money via donation. We don't know many people with extra money lying around, but it's worth a shot, right? :-)<br /><br />Natasha no longer writes on her blog, but I think that I will continue. I have less to say about what's happening with us, but if I can offer advice or just point out the occasional relevant event and it helps somebody, then why not!<br /><br />@Kathryn - I think at this point the only reason why I might kick her out is if she doesn't start poop-scooping the back yard more often like she said she would! :-D<br /><br />@Calie - You are a loving and thoughtful person to be willing to keep your "true" self locked away for the happiness of your wife. I have to say that if Natasha had told me that she was conscious of her situation when we met and didn't tell me at that moment, I would probably not be with her anymore. I would have felt betrayed: lied to. You know this, clearly, which is why, I assume, that you remain out of transition. You probably feel immensely guilty. I'm sure, if she does love you, your wife knows this. Are you two happy together, even with the knowledge that you are closeting yourself for her sake, or is there strain because of it? <br /><br />I am not asking because I want to urge you to push the issue. It is your life and your choice. You are strong to be able to resist. I am asking because, if you two are not really that happy because of your guilt and her distrust, then you might consider that making the change would make things better, if she is willing to go through the change... slowly... with you. <br /><br />I have heard of several TS who never transitioned, stayed married for life, and died never having realized that transition fully. I learned recently that my uncle's wife's great uncle was a TS and cross-dressed in secret until her wife found out. They stayed married until the wife died, but it was anguish on the TS until that death. Can you imagine how awful that might have been for her? Her wife's death was both terrible and a relief. Talk about guilt! <br /><br />All I hope for you is that you and your spouse are happy and that you either find that happiness together or apart, whichever is best for your family. Sometimes the road to happiness is very hard and often seems impossible, but your instincts, if you will listen, will guide you and your spouse's instincts, if she will listen, will guide her.<br /><br />Just promise me that you won't let your guilt drive you into the darkness. <br /><br />Oh, I forgot to say that Natasha has great will power. She did not take any steps toward transition without my approval. I saw someone that I loved suffering and allowed myself to face the possibility of the journey ending not where I wanted it to, but rather where it needed to.<br /><br />I wish you and your family the best future possible! :-DMarnihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18383127758637225562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3624094217975192456.post-91730385556014418382011-12-20T16:05:26.760-08:002011-12-20T16:05:26.760-08:00I must echo the comments of Cynthia and Kathryn.
...I must echo the comments of Cynthia and Kathryn.<br /><br />If you two can grow old together, that would be a beautiful thing.<br /><br />I continue to fight it, although I know my wife would stay with me if I did transition, albeit unhappy. She married a male and I did not disclose my situation when we first met. I agreed to a contract (marriage) for life and will continue to try to comply with the terms of the agreement. I work with lawyers daily, so just look at this as an analogy. Marriage, I thought, would fix my gender issues. it didn't.<br /><br />I am one who, I suppose, has immense will power and will continue to fight it as long as I can. Nevertheless, Marni, I do support my sisters who feel that they must absolutely transition to maintain their sanity or even their life.<br /><br />I wish you both Happy Holidays and happiness in 2012.<br /><br />CalieCaliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00280127011882954777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3624094217975192456.post-85583714898347496072011-12-12T13:21:02.482-08:002011-12-12T13:21:02.482-08:00Marni, it is so good to hear beyond the short snap...Marni, it is so good to hear beyond the short snappers of other media. So much of what you speak is very familiar for Elizabeth and I. What really warmed my heart is your perspective of a future where you grow old together. Being so much further along in this process of aging this is our most joyful outlook.<br /><br />Thanks you<br /><br />KathrynKathryn Dumkehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16054997856180869508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3624094217975192456.post-54020687489734510752011-12-12T09:31:02.184-08:002011-12-12T09:31:02.184-08:00It is good to hear from you again, and that things...It is good to hear from you again, and that things are pretty much the same as they were. <br /><br />It is so sad that Natasha's parents are the way they are. There's no accounting for some behaviors. <br /><br />About all I wish to say at this point is, have a Merry Christmas/ Chanukkah, and I will continue to pray for you and Natasha as I always have.<br /><br />Hugs, Blessings, and Prayers,<br /><br />Cynthia XXCynthia Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16222413324022459669noreply@blogger.com