tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3624094217975192456.post9215458852378249898..comments2023-05-23T07:26:54.524-07:00Comments on Yes, She is My Husband: Two Steps Forward, One Step BackMarnihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17627512510408880545noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3624094217975192456.post-800619943930234432010-12-16T17:41:36.986-08:002010-12-16T17:41:36.986-08:00Casey, did you see my comment in your email? It...Casey, did you see my comment in your email? It's not here. But then, considering that you responded to a lot of what I wrote in your next post, maybe it's just as well. It was probably TMI anyway. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3624094217975192456.post-22465219176748142242010-12-16T08:45:50.785-08:002010-12-16T08:45:50.785-08:00@Anne, thank you very much. We still have a long r...@Anne, thank you very much. We still have a long road ahead, especially since Natasha has gathered information from a few surgeons and we now understand how much money we need to "find" in order for her to have SRS. It will be years (I'll be writing about that, too). <br /><br />@Ariel, I'm glad you mentioned "needing a man." I'm going to get to that in my next post, but I was sort of hinting at it when I discussed the idea of physical changes and which ones stay the same throughout transition. I'm very glad that you and your partner are still together. Neither Natasha nor I are bisexual, and I have definitely read about orientation switching after SRS. It does concern me and... I'll be writing about that, too. :-)<br /><br />I am sorry that it took me so long to write that last blog. I've been swamped since early December. But I think about what to write just about every night. I'm on a roll, so after I post this, I'm going to write the next one to bring everyone up to date.<br /><br />Thank you BOTH... and everyone else, for reading. I do hope this helps someone out there in Blogistan. :-DMarnihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18383127758637225562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3624094217975192456.post-36526400426956965502010-12-16T07:27:33.708-08:002010-12-16T07:27:33.708-08:00Casey, you are a remarkable person. You seem to be...Casey, you are a remarkable person. You seem to be solidly grounded in reality, and you have figured out clearly what is best for you and your children.<br /><br />And you've done it mostly without professional help, which is amazing. My partner went to counselling several sessions, mostly to deal with the loss of security that comes from being in a heterosexual marriage. She and I also did a couples weekend that was all about "active communication." That was amazing for both of us. Complete sharing.<br /><br />I feel like apologizing for that period when you were hearing that the transition would not be "all the way." I think we all do that. It's not purposely deceptive. We're actually trying to convince ourselves that we can work out a compromise. As you discovered, in most cases that's just not so.<br /><br />My partner thought about leaving more than once, but in the end we decided that we just didn't want to be without each other. It also helps that we're both bisexual and old enough that sex is no longer front and centre in our relationship.<br /><br />One more reason to add to your list of reasons to leave: one or the other partner, or both, needs a man. If my partner and I had been younger, I think that would have split us up. If it's not true for you, that's great. I don't know how sexual either of you is, and of course it's none of my business, but be aware that sexual orientation can shift. Not in everyone who transitions, but in some. And it catches you by surprise.<br /><br />Thank you for this blog entry. I know you're busy, but I think it's important to hear your view on what is going on. Hope you will have time to keep writing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3624094217975192456.post-64362772519015582922010-12-15T21:14:16.111-08:002010-12-15T21:14:16.111-08:00Casey.
I cannot even begin to say how much I am a...Casey.<br /><br />I cannot even begin to say how much I am awed by your strength and loyalty. what you are going through IS, (NOT must be, but simply IS), incredibly difficult.<br /><br />I also find you to be exceedingly reasonable and rational in what has to be a highly emotional and unsettling situation. What strikes me most about this last post is your willingness to help Natasha "get through this" and then "see how I, (you) felt...".<br /><br />This committment on your part stands as a monument to your love.<br /><br />I will hold you and your family in my prayers.<br /><br />anneAnnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02696670919817140802noreply@blogger.com